101 Amazing Things to Do with Your Husband

Doing something with husband is really so loving and fun, I always enjoy to do anything with him. I have complied a list of 101 things to do with your husband. Not all of them apply to me and my husband, but as I got going… I couldn’t stop! I had to much fun creating 101 Things to do with your Husband!

So – without further adieu… 
 Before you read,

Ask yourself; Do I really Love my Husband?

1. Bike ride – around the block or out and about! 
2. Cook together – each taking turns with parts of the recipe
3. Go to the gym together – I love looking at Matt across the gym, something very comforting about it
4. Playing croquet – one of my all-time favorite games to play in the backyard
5. Match socks together – believe it or not, this can be nice to just sit and chat while doing this mindless chore. 
6. Plant a garden – my husband’s favorite and dream
7. Go see a play at a local theatre
8. Paint a room in your house that you’ve been meaning to re-do
9. Shopping for something new for you and for him
10. Scrabble
11. Head to a vineyard
12. Long walk around the block – even with the kids
13. Picnic on the beach
14. When the kids are in bed, steal the Wii
15. A game of tennis
16. Put together a puzzle
17. Read a book together – I know… I know… but it can be romantic
18. Put together photo albums of your family
19. Sit outside and watch the sunset
20. Cooking class together
21. Yoga
22. Head to a coffeeshop and chill out
23. Day trip to a special location nearby – for us it would be Newport or Cape Cod
24. Find a band you both like and see if they’re playing anytime soon or nearby. If not, head to a local bar who plays music.
25. Dancing lessons
26. Baseball game together – Major or Minor league
27. Check out a local brewery
28. Bowling!
29. House hunting
30. Head to the zoo (you don’t always have to be with the kids!)
31. Fishing – something my husband loves trying to get me to do
32. Canoe ride
33. Roller blading – we used to do this all the time!
34. Create a vegetable garden – something we just did at our home
35. Learn how to play Call of Duty on XBOX
36. Couple massages
37. Run a 5K, 10K, 1/2 marathon, marathon together
38. Volunteer together somewhere special
39. Create videos for your blog together – if you’re a blogger! 
40. Whale watching
41. Mini golfing
42. Real golfing
43. Play basketball together (or teach her how to play)
44. Head to the beach and collect sea glass or shells
45. Monopoly
46. Recreate your very first date
47. Dance in the kitchen when the kids are in bed
48. Head to a flea market
49. Sit by the fire
50. Go camping (Matt would have to pay me)
51. Learn to play an instrument together
52. Play frisbee
53. Redo your bedroom together – new sheets, new arrangement of furniture, hang photos, etc
54. When it’s raining, run outside and kiss in the rain!
55. Free movies in the park
56. Walk around the mall hand in hand
57. Have a fondue night
58. Kayaking
59. Make chocolate chip cookies from scratch together
60. Head to the batting cages
61. Go-cart racing!
62. Head out on a boat ride
63. Head to a car dealer and test drive cars you’ve been dying to check out for you and your family
64. Strawberry/Blueberry/Apple picking – depending on the season
65. Movie night outside on an old school projector
66. Sit and watch your wedding video together
67. Make a family tree
68. Spend the night at a local B&B
69. Go hiking
70. Head to a local museum
71. Fitness class together
72. Make your own sundaes
73. Go ice skating
74. Find a place where you can do a dinner boat or a dinner train!
75. Make your own sushi
76. Lay in your backyard and look up at the stars
77. Go horseback riding
78. Find a local art exhibit
79. Swim in the ocean
80. If you have a hot tub, jump in!
81. Head to an amusement park
82. Go zip-lining!
83. Create something for your kids and surprise them – blanket fort, pillow fortress, LEGO cave, etc!
84. Make a cake
85. Dress up all fancy and head out to dinner, it doesn’t matter if it’s just for the fun of it
86. Create a vision board of goals and dreams you both have for your lives ahead
87. Clean out and organize the garage, your basement or your attic
88. Go to church together
89. Make breakfast and eat it in bed
90. Plant a tree
91. Create a special space outdoors for the summer
92. Go to a planetarium
93. Watch a fireworks display
94. Take a bubble bath together
95. Create a scavenger hunt for each other of clues that only the 2 of you would know and understand
96. Visit a local animal shelter if you’re looking to adopt a new pet
97. Take a karate class
98. Whitewater rafting
99. Head to the casino
100. Make breakfast together in the morning 
101. Head to a water park

 So enjoy the happy married life!
Stay Loving!!

Regards
Cattelya Angel

50 Ways to Inspire Your Wife

Ideas to help you make your bride feel cherished

An old story told from the island of Kiniwata relates the account of a man known as Johnny Lingo. The youngest and strongest man from the island, Johnny shocked the islanders by paying the father of his bride not the traditional two to three cows for his wife, or even the four to five cows for an exceptional wife. For Sarita, he paid eight. No one could understand: “It would be kindness to call her plain. She was skinny. She walked with her shoulders hunched and her head ducked. She was scared of her own shadow." Eight cows!? The entire island laughed at the audacity.

Curious about the story, writer Patricia McGerr visited Johnny's home. She was fascinated by what she describes as the most beautiful woman she’d ever seen. She wrote about this in a Woman's Day article,   “Johnny Lingo and the Eight Cow Wife”: “The lift of her shoulders, the tilt of her chin, the sparkle of her eyes all spelled a pride to which no one could deny her the right.” 

When McGerr later pressed Johnny Lingo for his reasoning, he explains, “Many things can change a woman. Things that happen inside, things that happen outside. But the thing that matters most is what she thinks about herself. In Kiniwata, Sarita believed she was worth nothing. Now she knows she is worth more than any other woman in the islands ... I wanted an eight-cow wife.”

Now, for obvious reasons, please do not immediately tell your beloved, “Hon, you’re an eight-cow wife.” But remember that, at least in part, a man’s impact may be measured in the joy and character of the people closest to him.
The way that a man sees his wife, the way he cherishes her, has a lasting effect on her beauty within and without. How does your wife feel about you and your relationship to her? How do you want your children to remember your acts of love for their mother?  
Here are 50 ideas to get you started toward inspiring an eight-cow wife.

1. Be a student of her. Where do her passions, gifting, and abilities lie? What energizes her? When does she lose track of time because she’s enjoying herself so much? What weights does she bear? (Can you learn incredible things about this woman that even she doesn’t know?)
2. Ask God for special wisdom in understanding your wife and in loving her well (James 1:5-6).
3. Make a list of 30 things that you love and/or appreciate about her. Write them on separate sticky notes, and leave one somewhere in the house every day for an entire month.
4. For what ministry has God created your wife in order to build up His people? Give her time and energy to pursue it.
5. Take care of the kids for a day so that she can have a personal spiritual retreat to recharge.
6. Listen to her sincerely: Observe her words, body language, and circumstances in order to compassionately understand her. Make eye contact with her, and ask thoughtful questions, like “How did that affect you?” or basic who/what/where/when/why/how questions.
7. If she’s got a budding hobby or one that’s been neglected, purchase something small but high-quality that she would enjoy: quality paintbrushes, a beautiful journal, photo software, a top-notch cooking knife, new gloves, athletic equipment (ahem … only if she loves athletics), a well-recommended book on her hobby. Include a note: Just because I love the way you’re made.
8. Pray with her, and for her, on a regular basis. Consider making it a regular item in your schedule, such as before you leave for work or go to bed.
9. Compile a CD with songs that specifically encourage things you love about her. Let her know that you intentionally chose these for her and about her.
10. When circumstances, conversation, or even movies or songs bring up an area in which she excels, lean over and whisper, “You know, you do that so well. I love how you use ___ to bless the people around you.”
11. Identify the “life-suckers” in her life. What saps her energy? Consider the points of friction that she often faces in her daily routines. Prayerfully ask God to help you see not only what weighs on her, but also how you could help her.   Initiate conversation to compassionately find solutions with her. Ask, “What could be done to make that less painful (or less difficult)?”
12. Gently encourage your children to thank her for different ways she serves them: When they have clean laundry, when she serves dinner, when she drops them off at school. (Make sure you’re modeling consistent gratitude for little things, too.)
13. Identify your wife’s “love language”—what makes her feel loved and valued. Is it words of affirmation, gifts, physical touch, quality time, or acts of service? She may have more than one. Become fluent in each of her "languages."
14. What pleasures in your life do you enjoy that your wife isn’t able to enjoy? She might not be into fishing like you are, for example, but maybe she’d like her own version of alone time. Like you, she might be honored by accolades for her projects well-done, a chance to finish a conversation, or sleeping in on a Saturday.
15. Allow your wife to set your standard of beauty, and make it clear to her that she is secure: Your eyes are only for her. Enlist the help of a trusted friend or pastor and accountability websites like x3watch.com to develop monogamous eyes that come from a monogamous heart … and a husband she can trust. Security gives way to confidence.
16. Talk through your budget together with her. Make sure you both have the resources you need to care for your family well. If you primarily manage the budget, ask her to make at least one change before finalizing it. Esteem wise financial decisions she’s made.
17. Be a student of her body. Ask her, both while you’re in bed and at a completely separate private time, how you can please her sexually and make her feel secure and beautiful. Seek tenderly to understand her past and how it affects her in the bedroom. Be prepared to humbly accept what she says, embracing her without defensiveness.
18. Gently protect her. Lovingly help her set boundaries with her time, energy, resources, and relationships (kids and mothers-in-law included).
19. Give her a massage—one that doesn’t lead to sex, unless she’s clear that making love is what she would enjoy most.
20. Send her an e-mail. Example: “Praying for you today. Thanks for being so courageous in ___.”
21. Give her one night on a regular basis to do something she loves. Occasionally surprise her with an afternoon “off” so she can do something fun or just be alone.
22. Consistently mention ways you see her growing to be more like Christ.
23. Ask her about her “bucket list”—the top things she’d like to do in her lifetime.
24. Give her a book or audio CD to learn about something she loves doing.
25. Text her on a stressful day. Example: “REMINDER: I BELIEVE IN U.”
26. Leave a message on her voicemail: “Thanks for serving our family every day. You are so good at ___.”
27. Be proactive about doing something together that she really enjoys. Make a date, get her excited, and share her enthusiasm!
28. Ask her, “If there were one thing I could do to love you better, to really cherish you—and you knew I would listen—what would it be?” Be prepared to follow through.
29. Tell her areas she’s gifted in. Don’t stretch the truth: Be honest so she can trust you.
30. Talk with her about setting aside a small part of the budget to pursue the unique ways God has designed her (including her gifts, abilities, and passions)—through education or through sheer enjoyment.
31. Post on her Facebook wall: “I love being your husband. You still take my breath away.”
32. Have your children write her notes or letters about what they love about her as a mom.
33. Ask, “If I could do one thing that would really empower you and inspire you, what would it be?” Listen and follow through.
34. As you think of them, remind her of specific times when she has made an impact in the lives of others. “Hey, I was thinking the other day about all the times you’ve invested in all those kids who come over here. You do such a good job making people feel welcomed and loved on.” “I don’t think I could count all the meals you’ve brought to people who are sick. You are wonderful at seeing people’s needs and giving of yourself to them.”
35. Do something fun and unexpected together. Here are a few ideas: play paintball, laser tag, or sand volleyball; organize a picnic and bring the books you’re reading; take photos of each other; play a pickup game of a sport together; go to a drive-in movie, bringing popcorn and her favorite candy (let her initiate any physical advances for this one).
36. Think about a way you’ve been hurting her or annoying her. Maybe there are ways you’re not “seeing” her—not stepping into her world to understand what it’s like to be her, with all of the things she cares about (see 1 Peter 3:7). Apologize, and work hard at showing true change.
37. Find a mutually enjoyable activity you like doing together on a regular basis, even if it’s working outside together or playing the Wii together after the kids are in bed.
38. Create a fun, life-giving atmosphere when you come home.
39. Design a date night that will help her to de-stress and have fun. (Dare I suggest ballroom dancing lessons?)
40. What’s difficult about her life right now? Pray for her endurance, and encourage her specifically. Galatians 6:9 is a great start for both. Think, What can I do to ease the load she’s carrying today?
41. Organize or clean something of yours that you know she finds messy.
42. Talk with her about her fears—both deep and insignificant. Over time, lead her as you work together to replace those fears with faith in God as expressed in His Word.
43. Send a snail-mail love note to her at home, affirming all she does for your family.
44. Think of something on her to-do list that she finds overwhelming or for which she doesn’t have much time. Talk with her (respectfully and gently) about the possibility of having it hired out (maybe you could pay a responsible high school student to log a few hours on housework). Communicate clearly that it’s not because you find her incompetent, but that you want to free her up from a burden.
45. If your wife likes to dress nicely, go with her to shop for clothes in which she feels confident and looks fantastic.
46. Be an advocate for her rest. Gently help her to evaluate and set limits on her to-do list, reminding her that she loves others best when she takes time to replenish.
47. Let her overhear you speaking well of her on the phone—among friends, to your kids, in public places, and to your mother. Tenderly but firmly keep family members from speaking disrespectfully to her or about her.
48. In her area of weakness, pray about how to subtly, gently step in and help her.
49. Request, “I’d like you to think about something for me. I’d like you to tell me one area in which you want to challenge me, but you wonder if I will listen and if I’ll receive it well. If you’ll do that, I commit to listen to you without getting defensive or somehow punishing you for telling me.”
50. If and when she messes up, respond with the kind of grace, compassion, and mercy that God gives us. Respond in a way that communicates, You’re safe with me—and I’m not going to rehash your failures. This is a secure place for you to grow … and I love the journey with you.

One final note: Maybe you are a man who initiates many kindnesses to your wife and you don't receive much respect or kindness in return. Or perhaps you’re a woman reading this under the burden of a husband who doesn’t serve you or protect you or cherish you. May you be gently, compassionately encouraged: Giving without mutual gain puts you in good company—the company of Jesus. May God give you significant grace as you pray for your husband and encounter the nitty-gritty, everyday battles against resentment and, in many cases, injustice. Our God is the God who sees

50 Ways to Make your Wife Happy

Do you remember the last time you did something to make your wife feel special? When you married the woman of your dreams, you not only gained a friend and a lover for life, but a confidante, a helpmate and a caregiver. She is someone you know will steady you when you are faltering and will go all out to cheer you up, when you are feeling low. She is the mother of your kids.

So, do something special to make your wife feel glad that she married you. Whether you are a brand new husband eager to make her the happiest bride, or a long-wedded spouse wishing to rediscover the fun-loving girl you married, here are some infallible ways to make your wife happy.   
Write a romantic letter. Love letters written by hand never go out of fashion. Put your most romantic thoughts on paper, preferably perfumed, and it will surely light up your wife’s eyes. 

2. Surprise her with a meal you have cooked. It need not be something elaborate –just a salad, a main course and her favourite dessert should do. But take care to set the table for an intimate dinner, with candles, flowers and soft music.
3. Arrange to go on a luxury cruise. All women love being indulged and what better way to spend a long weekend than go on a luxury cruise in balmy waters and golden sunshine. But make sure that you leave the kids behind, so that your wife can have some time of her own.
4. Invite her family over. Your wife’s parents mean a lot to her, so ask them over for Thanksgiving or any such special occasion. It will assure her that you consider them part of your own family and this will make her really happy for marrying you.
5. Surprise your wife  with flowers for no reason. Make her fall in love with you, all over again.
6. Book her a session at a luxurious spa and better still, join her. She will not only enjoy the spa session, but will be happy that you came along with her.
7. Do something she hates. Choose a chore - like taking out the trash or cleaning out the garage - that your wife really dislikes doing and then go on to complete it. 
8. Show appreciation for her hobbies. Attend the exhibition where your wife’s craft works are on display, or a flower show where her dahlias have been put up. Your interest in her hobbies will give her a feeling of pride and gladden her heart.
9. Gift her an afternoon at the beauty salon. Offer to take care of the kids and let your wife pamper herself at the salon. She’ll come back glowing not only because of the recent facial, but also out of appreciation at your gesture.
10. A sure shot way to make your wife happy at the end of the day is to pick up her favourite dessert on your way back home.
11. Surprise your wife by dropping in at her office at lunchtime and then take her out for a quick bite. It may not be very romantic, but your wife will love the spontaneity of the gesture and the fact that you took time out from your own schedule for the lunch date.
12. Join a salsa class for couples. Your wife will be glad of the intimacy of the dance and having the chance to do something fun together.
13. Make a bowl of popcorn, when your wife settles down for her favourite TV show or movie. Surprise her with your thoughtfulness.
14. Surprise your wife with a really expensive gift, like a Cartier solitaire or a Gucci handbag. Watch the sparkle in her eyes and hang the expense.
15. Do something fun together. Find out fun ways of spending time together as a family. You could pack a picnic basket and spend a lazy Sunday afternoon at the park, while the kids run about playing games.
16. Recreate your first date. Take your wife out in exactly the same way as you had done on your first date. The romantic gesture will be sure to make her giddy with love and happiness all over again.
17. Put together a gift basket for your wife, with assorted aromatic oils and let her sensuous side feel pampered.
18. Offer to take over, when your wife has to wake up at night to soothe a colicky baby or a sick child. Even if she may not seem grateful at the time, the fact that you have given her a chance to catch up on her sleep will surely gladden her heart the next day.
19. Find out your wife’s favourite perfume and gift it to her for no particular reason.
20. Give your wife a back or neck massage after a particularly gruelling day at work and she is sure to thank her stars that she married you.
21. Ask your wife what she would like to do, before you get ready for an intimate evening.
22. Really pay attention to what your wife has to say, especially when you are in company. This will make her feel respected, even though you may not agree with all her views.
23. Find things to compliment about her. All of us like being praised from time to time, but more so, when the compliment comes from a spouse. However, be genuine in your appreciation, as false praise could make her feel worthless and even hurt her.
24. Take care of your appearance. Nothing turns a woman on as a well-groomed and well dressed man. Become that man and give her one more reason to be glad she married you.
25. Offer to take your wife out for shopping and be honestly interested in what she has to buy. She will be glad that you chose to give your time and effort to her shopping interests.
26. Gift your wife a subscription to her favourite magazine. It'll make her happy to know that you pay attention to what interests her.
27. Go over old photo albums with your wife one afternoon. It will not only bring back warm memories of you together, but also make her want to relive those happy times.
28. Invite your wife’s best pals over for a meal. Making a genuine attempt to know who her friends are, will make her proud and happy to have you as a husband.
29. Kiss her the first thing in the morning. Women love simple displays of love and waking up your wife with a kiss, is sure to set her humming for the rest of the day.
30. Cheer for your wife’s favourite sports team.  So what if your wife is a diehard soccer fan while you can drop everything for a game of baseball. Just this once, switch on to her favourite match on TV or better still, root for her favourite team and watch her beam at you.
31. Put the kids to bed. After a gruelling day at work and home, your wife is bound to be tired up to her eyelids. Even if the same goes for you, go another mile and tuck in the kids to bed. Your wife will surely be grateful for your thoughtfulness.
32. Remind your wife that she is beautiful. As couples settle into a routine of familiarity, they slowly stop appreciating each other. Remind her that she is still the most beautiful woman in the world for you and watch her glow with happiness.
33. Say sorry when you have made a mistake. And mean what you say. 
34. Play host to your wife’s boss. If your wife expresses a desire to invite her boss over for dinner at your home, agree to it graciously and be the perfect host. It will mean a lot to your wife and she will be proud to have such a supportive husband.
35. Write a poem for your wife. In these times of electronic modes of communication, a poem that you have composed yourself, will make her feel really special. And be sure to make it as romantic as possible, whether it rhymes or not!
36. Be the one to make the morning coffee. Bringing a steaming cup of coffee to your wife’s bedside on a cold morning, is sure to put her in a happy frame of mind for the rest of the day.
37. Snuggle up to her. Women love the feeling of physical intimacy. Snuggling up to her, now and then, will make her feel desired and happy to be your lover.
38. Surprise your wife with tickets to a romantic movie, especially one that she has been planning to watch for some time. But be sure to accompany her and don’t leave her to go with a friend or co-worker. She will be happy to relive the earlier days of your romance.
39. Hold your wife close at social occasions. This will not only make her feel loved but reassure her that you are proud to have her as your wife. And this in turn will make her feel happy.
40. Make breakfast on weekends and serve it to the kids so that that your wife can sleep till later. Better still, bring it on a tray to your wife in bed and watch her beam with happiness.
41. Treat her like a lady. No woman can resist a man with perfect manners. So even if you have been married for some time now, continue to hold open the door for her and pick up her things if she drops them. She will be glad to know that you are still the gallant young man she fell in love with.
42. Willingly accompany your wife to family events. Granted, that you are bored among all her cousins, aunts and uncles. But make a sincere attempt to look happy at a family wedding and your wife will be sure to appreciate the gesture.
43. Send your wife a bunch of flowers at work and sign off as a mystery lover. Chances are that she will correctly guess you have sent it, but she will love the drama of it all.
44. Call your wife once in a while. Say that you were missing her and just wanted to hear her voice. This will assure her that she figures in your thoughts even while you are busy, and make her really happy.
45. Leave a love-you note on the bathroom mirror. Better still, make it funny so that it leaves a smile on her lips for the rest of the day. 
46. Don’t offer a solution, immediately after your wife mentions a problem. Women often tend to voice problems as a way of discussing things and most likely, they are aware of the solutions themselves. So simply listen to what she has to say and offer a solution only when asked. She will be glad of having a good listener.
47. Flirt with your wife now and then. Go back to the old days when you flirted with each other shamelessly.  This will not only spice up your marriage, but also make your wife feel desired and happy.
48. Be punctual. Just because you are married now, does not mean that you can keep your wife waiting for a meeting. Continue to be punctual as you were when you were dating each other and she will be glad of your responsible personality.
49. Don’t forget to take out the trash and any such chore that you both have decided is your responsibility.
50. Let your wife know that you have been reading up on ways to make her happy. It may seem to amuse her, but actually she will be pleased to know that you are interested in making her happy.
51. Finally, remember to put the toilet seat down. Nothing will make her happier than to have a man around who follows this cardinal bathroom rule.

Every woman likes to be pampered now and then. While gifts and vacations are infallible but extravagant ways of making your wife happy, remember that there are many simpler ways of putting the sparkle back in your woman’s eyes. All it takes is a bit of generosity and a truly loving heart to make her feel glad that she is your wife.

11 Things Happy Couples Never Do

Keep these helpful tips in mind over the Holidays and make your relationship even stronger!

11 Things Happy Couples Never Do

Happy and healthy relationships require a lot of constant work from both sides. We are going to focus on the 11 things people in happy and healthy relationships never do.

They Don’t Take Each Other For Granted

 

People in healthy and happy relationships know not to take each other for granted, they know how to cherish each other and how to make each other happy.

They Don't Ignore Their Struggles

 

Healthy relationships have a lot of ups and downs. The reason for that relationship to be so strong is the will of both people and how they tackle their problems rather than ignoring them. 

 

They Don’t Fake How They Feel

 

Some people think that by faking the way they feel or by nodding their heads they’d be doing their relationship a solid, well they’re not. Be yourself, be true to yourself and your partner.

They Don't Pretend To Be Someone They're Not

 

The key to a happy and healthy relationship is to completely expose yourself to your partner, don’t be scared and let them know everything about yourself. Be your true self.

They Don’t Hold Grudges

 

Forgiveness has the highest rewards and we all make mistakes. Forgive their mistakes and let go of the anger, let go of the grudges and move on with them. Move forward with them.

They Don’t Talk When It’s Time To Listen

 

It’s not easy to speak your mind completely, it’s certainly not easy to spill your heart out to someone, but it’s insanely difficult to just listen with an open and willing mind. Happy couples are those who know when to speak and when to listen.

They Don’t Take Everything To Heart

 

People in good and happy relationships know not to take each and every little thing to heart. They know not to let themselves be hurt by everything they hear their partners say.

They Don’t Compare Each Other To Someone Else

 

Comparing your partner to someone else (especially your ex) is the most horrible thing you can do to them. Love them for who they are because they have their own individuality. Comparing your partner to someone else only tells them they aren’t good enough for you the way they are.

They Don’t Lie

 

When trust goes out the window, it can never be rebuilt. Lying and cheating will only lead to bad things. Be yourself and be the most truthful.

They Don’t Rush Their Relationship

 

People often tend to rush their perfectly happy relationships in hopes of a happier tomorrow. Stop rushing things. Spend every single day as if it were the first day of your relationship. Cherish even the smallest of moments and create memories each day as it goes by. Don’t stress about what’s next, just keep at it and continue moving forward with life as it goes.

They Don’t Expect A Magical Solution

 

The key to a healthy and happy relationship is to know when and where you can manage the issue yourself and not to turn to your partner at every sign of trouble. Be supportive and expect support, but learn to support yourself first.